9 PERSONAL YEAR
3 Personal Month
Wow. How’re you holding up? Are you feeling strong, vital, and ready to push on to the next level? It’s been a year where you’ve been required to let go of anything old that’s been holding you back from embracing and acting upon the real and authentic you. You might have had quite a topsy-turvy year, experiencing challenges with everything from relationships to your job, your child graduating school to health concerns and beyond.
You might have had quite a topsy-turvy year, experiencing challenges with everything from relationships to your job, your child graduating school to health concerns and beyond.
If you felt “trial by fire,” I want to congratulate you for making it through. Were you able to say good-bye to that marriage? “No thanks” to an abusive or lack-luster friendship? Get through the grief of a death in the family? Embrace the birth of a child while knowing that your life has changed forever? Have you gone with the flow of change, said a heartfelt “thank-you-very-much and good-bye” to certain aspects of your life that simply weren’t in your best interest anymore? This could have been a year of seeing your amazing dreams manifest before your eyes if you were in the flow of change and not resisting the transitions.
Even though you might feel a bit raw or preoccupied, really give yourself permission to enjoy yourself this month.
December will feel like you’re coming out of a fog, just in time to get you in line with the energies coming your way. Let go (again!) of the straggles and struggles of last month and jump into December with all of your holiday bells jingling. Even though you might feel a bit raw or preoccupied, really give yourself permission to enjoy yourself this month. Get out there and socialize. Go to the therapist and get those emotions up and out. Get some energy work. Healthy communication is your friend right now, so dig in and make it happen. You’ll find it therapeutic to cook some healthy comfort food. Perhaps you’ll have the energy to plan a nice get-together at your house where a lively game of Pictionary or Charades (or karaoke!) is part of the agenda. Fun, joy, and a certain sense of lightness are going to make you feel most satisfied and grounded. It will serve as a kind of counter-balance to the more serious considerations you’ve worked with all year long.
Also know that often you’ll continue to have remnants of your 9 Personal Year folding over into the impending year. That can be good if you feel as though you haven’t quite let go of what you need to let go of. Cut yourself some slack. These changes are very real, very challenging, and very life changing. So if you’re beating yourself up for not quite coming clean yet, I’m here to assure you that it’s okay. Keep peeling the onion.
Remember this: All is well. I feel this is a key for you this year and I also personally feel that it’s terribly profound. The energy of the 9 Personal Year holds your hand and seems to guide you in what can sometimes feel like the wrong direction. Did you feel as though you were struggling against moving backward in some way during the year? The thing to understand and embrace during a 9 Personal Year is this: You must move backward at certain points in order to reveal the unfinished business and unresolved issues that prevent you from authentically moving forward. You literally can’t cross a bridge until you get to it. So vanquish impatience or feelings that you’re just not getting it right. A new cycle is heading your way, yet you must live, breathe, and experience every moment as you get there.
Did you feel as though you were struggling against moving backward in some way during the year?
In that same vein, after this rather arduous year, I’d love to see you consider lightening up and focusing on fun, joy, social interactions, creativity, and appreciating the smaller things in life as you experience December. You can always tie up some loose ends and then focus on getting creative. You might want to take an idea from me and my daughters. Ever since they’ve become adults and have been out on their own, my kids and I schedule a “Cookie and Fudge” day where we make holiday treats and binge-watch all the old holiday favorites back-to-back—Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer, Frosty the Snowman, The Grinch. Is there some kind of event or celebration you’d like to plan that’s similar to our “Cookie and Fudge” day? Allow yourself to just relax, have some fun, tap into your emotions and your best creative self.
Get ready to clear away the fog and see what’s in front of you with much more clarity and added resolve. The upcoming year is the beginning of a new cycle for you, so make it count. Don’t waste the energy of the year straddling the fence on issues that you know need to be put to bed. It’s all about setting the stage for what you want to see happen in the next nine-year cycle. Get ready to tap into your creativity, individuality, and independence. Then make it happen with your unique flair, with fearless confidence, and unbridled creativity.