3 Life Path | What You Resist Will Persist?

3 Life Path | What You Resist Will Persist?

I’ve often used the quote:  “What you resist will persist.”

And yet in the past months I have questioned that notion.

Yes, resistance as avoidance doesn’t just disappear or regress into the sidelines.

Whatever we want to avoid does have a tendency to persistently make its way back around.

Like when …  you go out for one drink and it always ends up being five.  (Resistance to practicing self-discipline)

Like when …  you know that the way your partner verbally undermines you when you’re with friends or family isn’t healthy or in any way all right with you and yet you continue to let it slide.  (Resistance to standing up for yourself)

Like when … you feel as though you’re marching into purgatory every day when you show up to work and yet do nothing to change jobs or improve your situation because, well, because.  (Resistance to change or to taking action)

And while “What you resist will persist” is often true, I’m finding there are times when it isn’t true.

When in actuality, active resistance results in a reconfiguration of the persistent issue.

This form of active resistance can actually transmute and reformulate the issue at hand.

The key is “active intentional resistance.”

Let’s use the gym metaphor.

In order to build muscle, resistance training is key.

The more weight, the more resistance.

The heavier it is, the more attuned your body gets.

The more often you engage in resistance training, the easier it gets to endure longer period of time training.

The more reps you do, the stronger and more resilient you become.

If we carry forward with this metaphor, we can revisit the idea that “what you resist will persist.”

How can we think about re-thinking what we resist and why we resist it?

3 Life Path: The Creative Communicator

As a 3 Life Path, here is your usual point of resistance:  BLOCKED EXPRESSION

• You will always be met with people, situations, and experiences that pull you into situations where it’s imperative that you express your creativity and your authentic emotions.
• Time after time you’ll be met with opportunities to speak your truth and express yourself in the most clear, optimistic, and positive ways.
• The coping mechanism is either superficial and scattered connectivity with people OR defaulting to pessimistic, depressive, and negative communication.

RETOOL:  As you’re met with opportunities to step into your authentic emotional life, understand that this isn’t something to be avoided and you’re not being punished by continuing to have experiences that push you to express yourself in the most impeccable way possible – through your words, actions, and intentions.  THIS IS THE POINT!

As you build your “communication” muscles:  Focus on cultivating tools that assist in understanding your emotional life (therapy, energy work, or other methods!), give yourself permission to use your creativity on every level, and continue to work on single-tasking rather than multi-tasking.