2013: How To Survive This Year Of Relationships

Hello there Numerology Fans!

So we’re at the mid-point of the year 2013. REALLY??!! Yes, really.

And so my question to you is: And how’s it workin’ for ya’? (to quote Dr. Phil)

If you’re like everyone I know, this year has been pretty intense all the way around. Why, you ask?

Numerologically speaking, 2013 is a “6” Universal Year.

[ add together 2 + 0 + 1 + 3 = 6 ]

The “6” indicates that it’s a year – among other things – where we have no choice but to evaluate our relationships from every angle. That means our personal relationships with family and intimate partners, with our work, with friends, with ourselves, with virtually everything. It’s – both literally and figuratively – the “marriage and divorce” year. Relationships are center stage.

I had a fascinating exchange a while back. I was in a doctor’s office waiting room across from an older couple (and by older, I mean in their late 70s) sitting waiting for the husband to get in to see the doctor. They sat in silence for a while. Then the husband started squirming and blurted out: “I’ve been waiting here since 7:30 and I’m {expletive} sick of it. I’m going home!” To which his wife’s worried eyes darted around the room, obviously embarrassed about his outburst. He got up and talked to the receptionist. He sat back down. He started on a tirade about the fact that he was never going to go to the doctor again. She said: “This is why I don’t go with you. Next time I’m going to stay home.” To which he jarringly replied: “YOU SHUT UP.”

Cue: awkward and painfully emotional silence.

She gathered her sweater and walked out of the waiting room. He finally got called to go to his (very late) appointment.

The wife walked back into the waiting room and sat down in the chair directly next to me. She turned to me and said to my face: “I’m sorry.”

I looked at her and, rather than acting as though I had no idea what she was referring to, said: “I’m sure he’s very tense and upset to be waiting so long.” To which she started talking. And talking, and talking, and talking. I asked her about her life; where she came from, who she is. In a very short amount of time, she expressed her dissatisfaction with her marriage, with his jobs and their moving around, about times in which she had severely questioned what she was doing and why she was resigned to certain things.

It was a somewhat surreal experience to have a stranger tell me her life story in 15 minutes in the waiting room.

The person I was waiting for came back into the waiting room, our conversation ended, and I left.

The reason I tell this story is this. In many ways, this is a great illustration of how all of us are feeling during this year of evaluation! And it’s intense! It comes up and bubbles up and boils up in the most unlikely and – most of the time – embarrassing and inappropriate places.

3 Must-Know Tips for Surviving Your Relationship Year

3. IT’S TIME TO LEARN SOMETHING NEW. Yes. I know. Ugh. This year is demanding that you let go and dig deep into your authentic self and act accordingly. This is never easy. And it’s confusing. And overwhelming. And it requires that you be OPEN to learning something new and then use it. This is the year where you finally leave, finally stay, finally say what’s really on your mind and then let the chips fall as they may. Status quo: Out the proverbial window! Renegotiating everything: Yes.

2. IT’S TIME FOR YOU. Like it or not, our relationships start with one person. Ourselves. The energy of this year is exposing all of your “stuff” and pushing your nose smack-dab in the middle of it. Avoidance and denial won’t really cut it this year (although I’m sure all of us have been begging for avoidance and denial to work it’s old magic!). If it’s ever a time for therapy, a retreat, a self-help book per month, or any other support for you to cut through the muck and get acquainted with the true you, this is IT.

1. YOU’RE NOT CRAZY (WELL….) OR LET’S SAY, YOU’RE NOT ALONE! Look around you. Seriously. Once you get past the vacuous cocktail-talk, ask your friends and even (gasp!) your family how they really are. You’ll instantly discover that you’re not in this alone. You’ll see that what you’re working with is totally and completely unique to you, yet everyone else is also dealing with their totally unique points of intensity themselves.

Just knowing the “theme” for the year can offer you a sense of purpose and direction you might not otherwise have. Hope it sheds a little light on what’s going on in your life right now.