Get Their Number: Understanding Your Perfect Love Match

Your birth date has a significant influence on your personality. 

Just ask any Astrologer, Numerologist, or even your Doctor.  Our date of birth plays a vital role in our lives in myriad ways.

The birth date can give you additional information about a potential mate. Most people know their Astrological sign, yet do you know your number?

Numerology offers an accessible tool to ramp up your possibilities for a successful love match.  Or at least offers some tools and insights into how to understand yourself and what you desire in a partner.

The Life Path number is just one number among your important Core Numbers in your Numerology chart.

Knowing the Life Path number is like knowing your Sun Sign in Astrology. It gives you a great indicator of what your life’s purpose is all about, plus Numerology provides you with information about innate tendencies, challenges, and stumbling blocks.

Here’s how to calculate the Life Path Number:

Example: NOVEMBER 19, 1985

• November is the 11th month. Add 1 + 1 = 2

• The day of birth is 19. Add 1 + 9 = 10; Keep
adding to digit down to a one-digit number:
1 + 0 = 1

• The year of birth is 1985. Add all four numbers together: 1 + 9 + 8 + 5 = 23; continue adding until you get a one-digit number:

2 + 3 = 5

We now add the resulting single digits.

Month = 2    Day = 1     Year = 5

2 + 1 + 5 = 8

The Life Path number is 8.

Remember: You always digit down to a one-digit number when you’re working with Numerology, except for some repeating numbers – called Master Numbers. These have special intensity – 11, 22, 33.

Take a look at the descriptions below.

Understand that these descriptions only skim the surface.

Also know – while these descriptions define what each number brings to the table – the essential elements of each number indicates what we’ve come here to learn and master along the way. That means that each of us will struggle with the very thing we’ve come here to do.  Keep that in mind.

You can use this as a guideline to 1) know and understand yourself with more clarity and 2) to assist you in choosing a partner who has the characteristics and values that are important to you.


Number 1: The Leader

If you’re on a 1 Life Path, you’re The Leader. Your primary purpose is to develop your sense of creativity and confidence in whatever you do. You’re here to learn how to individuate yourself from others (primarily family early on), develop your sense of independence, and then get on the road to attainment/achievement.

  • The 1 Life Path is all about #1 – competitive, innovative, creative, initiating, achievement oriented.
  • Meant to be in a leadership position.
  • Very creative thinker.
  • Uses a sense of “fail forward” to achieve goals.
  • Can be excellent entrepreneurs.

Potential Challenges:

  • Lack of self-confidence.
  • Inability to key into a sense of independence, individuality, and creative gifts.
  • Can become critical, judgmental, and cynical.
  • Can wrestle with addictions.

Possible Compatibility Profile

If you are or are involved with a 1 Life Path:

The 1 Life Path needs a cheerleader. They need praise and positive reinforcement. They need to be allowed plenty of processing/thinking time – just in general, yet also for dealing with relationship matters. The 1 Life Path is creative and needs encouragement to follow their unique vision. Since confidence is an ongoing issue for the 1, they need a relationship with someone who’s in tune with their need for reasonable praise and support of their need for creative expression. Understand that the 1 Life Path is enrolled in the “School of Hard Knocks.” They experience many obstacles in their lives that are meant to strengthen their sense of their uniqueness – not to grind them to a pulp. Yet these folks aren’t living a particularly linear existence.

Possible Red Flags:

This person can have a temper. They’re often “in their head” and find themselves in codependent relationships. A 1 Life Path is a natural leader, so (naturally!) they need followers. They’re usually charming, intelligent, and active. On the downside, this person can lean toward narcissism and can develop a sense of dealing with people and situations with criticism and judgment. They can also have issues with self-defeating tendencies and addictions. This stems from a lack of self-confidence.


Number 2: The Mediator

If you’re on a 2 Life Path, you’re The Mediator. Your primary purpose is to develop your sense of love, harmony, diplomacy, and balance in whatever you do. The 2 Life Path thrives when serving the needs of a group. You’re the one who makes things happen behind the scenes. You’re also all about love; giving and receiving unconditional love. You seek love and have an open and giving heart.  The 2 is the number of partnership.

  • The 2 Life Path is extremely emotionally sensitive, intuitive, dedicated, loyal, & supportive.
  • Loves to be useful and serve the greater good of a group/family.
  • Wants harmony, balance, and for everyone to get along.

Potential Challenges:

  • Attempts to please everyone to the exclusion of knowing what they personally want.
  • Over-gives and then withdraws with resentment.
  • Can become childish, self-centered, and aggressive.

Possible Compatibility Profile

If you are or are involved with a 2 Life Path:

The 2 Life Path is someone you can count on.  They’re all about love and so being in a loving relationship is very important to them. They’re super-emotionally sensitive, so be aware that they get their feelings hurt easily and they are also very much attuned to the emotions of others, often to the point of feeling drained emotionally. They must have an arena to fully express themselves in their relationship with you or they’ll shut down. They are givers who love to please. They’re usually conflict avoidant and can be great mediators – yet as you can see, this is an oxymoron and an emotional conflict. This person is often family and intimate partner-centered.

Possible Red Flags:

This person can be co-dependent and a worrier. They also can be a champion micro-manager if you allow it. They can have a tendency to “smother” their partner. If working with the destructive aspects of their Life Path mission, they can be antagonistic and aggressive/assertive. They can over-give and then withdraw. They can hang on to old stuff with resentment. The key to their over-all personal evolution: Defining, setting, and acting upon healthy emotional boundaries.


Number 3: The Communicator

If you’re on a 3 Life Path, you’re The Communicator. Your primary purpose is to develop your sense of creative self-expression and emotional sensitivity in whatever you do. The 3 Life Path thrives in the spotlight with performance, entertaining, or any creative and communicative endeavor having to do with the spoken or the written word.

  • The 3 Life Path is the number of joy and is in its element when socializing, hosting, and communicating.
  • Is feeling best when inspiring and uplifting others.
  • Emotions are at the heart of your life.

Potential Challenges:

  • Debilitating self-doubt and over-thinking (analysis paralysis).
  • Emotional highs and lows.
  • Difficulty following through with tasks.

Possible Compatibility Profile

If you are or are involved with a 3 Life Path:

The 3 Life Path is quite passionate. They’re full of humor, emotionally expressive, and can be great fun to have by your side. They’re joyful and caring. They truly need to be heard in a relationship, so you must be a good listener and really care about their inner emotional life. They can develop little emotional crushes that don’t mean anything – so just understand that it’s a fantasy of the mind and not a threat to your actual relationship together. They can be somewhat dramatic. These folks can handle a crisis like a Pro.

Possible Red Flags:

This person can be married to their projects rather than another person. They can also battle with depression. When not aligned with the constructive elements of their Life Path mission, they can be scattered, self-absorbed, and a procrastinator. Sometimes the 3 can hide from their emotions and be cut-off from that aspect of themselves. In this case, they will present as coldly analytical. They can easily succumb to “analysis paralysis” and become overwhelmed with following through or with decision making.


Number 4: The Teacher

If you’re on a 4 Life Path, you’re The Teacher. Your primary purpose is to develop your sense of process, security, stability, and hard work in whatever you do. The 4 Life Path is the “slow and steady wins the race” number who thrives when they know the rules, are allowed to use their systems-building skills, and have a sense of security and routine in their lives.

  • The 4 Life Path is a knowledge sponge and loves to share their knowledge with others.
  • A hard worker and enjoys the satisfaction of a job well done.
  • Excellent at organization and masters of systems.

Potential Challenges:

  • Inability to take risks and think outside the box.
  • Can become a slave to the drudgery of work.
  • Sees the world in a very literal way; can be a bossy know-it-all. Must learn to work with limitations.
  • Often struggles with both mental & physical inflexibility.

Possible Compatibility Profile

If you are or are involved with a 4 Life Path:

The 4 Life Path needs respect for taking care of you and their loved ones (and pets!). This person needs organization and order in their lives, so if you’re messy or unreliable, that usually won’t float. They’re direct in their communication; there’s not a lot of nuance with a 4 Life Path. This person needs total honesty or it’s over. The 4 can give you security if that’s what you’re after. They need a partner who can encourage them – gently – to take risks in their lives. They’re naturally curious and avid learners. If you want someone to “center” you, this is the one.

Possible Red Flags:

This person’s a rule-follower. They can provoke arguments even while they’re saying they never argue! They can get lost in the drudgery of work. They can be bossy and become rigid in their thinking. They have family/emotional issues that can guide many of their life choices. They can become slaves to their routines to the detriment of their relationships. On the other end of the spectrum, a 4 who isn’t in alignment with their purpose can be a person who can’t commit to a geographical location, consistent work, or much of anything. They can be a Ramblin’ Man or Ramblin’ Woman until they experience the relief of taking responsibility and laying down roots.


Number 5: The Freedom Seeker

If you’re on a 5 Life Path, you’re The Freedom Seeker. Your primary purpose is to develop your sense of fearlessness, adventure, and the constructive use of freedom in whatever you do. The 5 Life Path is resilient, an agent of change, vivacious, curious, and fun. You’re here to experience all the material & sensual world has to offer.

  • The 5 Life Path is here to experience the world in the most tactile way possible.
  • Your mantra: “Don’t fence me in!”
  • The 5 is exciting, engaging, adventurous, fun, and fearless.

Potential Challenges:

  • Excess in behaviors.
  • Drama Queen or King.
  • Swings from independence to dependence and back again.
  • Abandons things (relationships or projects) before giving it a proper chance or hanging on long past the shelf life is expired.

Possible Compatibility Profile

If you are or are involved with a 5 Life Path:

The 5 Life Path needs freedom! This person’s Mantra is: “Don’t fence me in!” A 5 is the life of the party, loves to travel, and is the ultimate adventurer. The 5 is a highly attractive and energetic person. They need encouragement to complete one thing at a time before moving on to the next. They love eating great food, dancing – anything tactile. They’re adventurous partners who’re usually sensual, intelligent, and exciting.

Possible Red Flags:

This person needs their space and freedom. The 5 isn’t likely to commit to a relationship early in life, and if they do, it often won’t last a lifetime. Yet they can be fiercely loyal to a partner later in life, as long as they can continue to have their independence and freedom. The 5 can be scattered and also sway between total dependence on you and total independence from you. Addictions can sometimes come into play, because the 5 is the master of escape.  Be prepared for lots of emotional high-intensity. On the flip-side, the 5 can opt into feeling fearful rather than fearless and can hyperventilate at the thought of packing their suitcase.  Some 5s become fearful to the point of excessively restricting  themselves.


Number 6: The Nurturer

If you’re on a 6 Life Path, you’re The Nurturer. Your primary purpose is to develop your sense of nurturing, balanced responsibility, acceptance, and vision in whatever you do. The 6 Life Path is the “home and family” number and often thrives when working with justice-related issues, in the creative arts, or anywhere that a sense of beauty is required.

  • The 6 Life Path is often asked to carry the lion’s share of responsibility with family and friends.
  • Is an idealist, visionary (can see The Big Picture), and is magnetic.
  • Has a compassionate heart, is a natural counselor and supportive nurturer.

Potential Challenges:

  • Can be a control freak & perfectionist to the point of self-righteousness.
  • Demands impossibly high standards from themselves and from others.
  • Lives in a world of “should’s.”

Possible Compatibility Profile

If you are or are involved with a 6 Life Path:

The 6 Life Path is the ultimate nurturer and is highly responsible. If you want a marriage partner who would be a ready, willing, and able parent – this is usually the one. The 6 is all about home and family. This person needs to be in control, so know that about them. They’re great at continuously putting out fires and sometimes feel lost if they aren’t the one who’s responsible for everything. These folks don’t take criticism or outside suggestions very well. So always use praise and constructive criticism with a 6 Life Path. In their optimal, the 6 is a responsible, heart-felt, compassionate nurturer who’s in it for the long haul.

Possible Red Flags:

This person can idealize their partner at first and then become disappointed when reality sets in. They can be a perfectionist and self-righteous. They can become a martyr if they gravitate toward the destructive tendencies of the 6. On the darker side, they can be super-critical of their loved ones and quite difficult to live with because of that issue. They can become over-controllers, enablers, and meddlers rather than allowing everyone carry their own responsibility.  If they’re extremely off path, they can be totally irresponsible.


Number 7: The Seeker

If you’re on a 7 Life Path, you’re The Seeker. Your primary purpose is to develop your sense of spirituality, data-driven analysis, intuition, trust, and openness in whatever you do. The 7 Life Path is on an “internal journey” seeking to know who you really are, deep down at your core. You’re here to master both the analytical and the spiritual and intuitive nature of life.

  • The 7 Life Path has a highly refined mind, is compassionate, and is always asking the bigger questions about life.
  • Needs isolated time alone to process and unplug.
  • Is mysterious, intriguing, and complex.

Potential Challenges:

  • The 7 Life Path works with trust issues.
  • Has challenges in over-intellectualizing & appearing aloof and emotionally detached.
  • Can be quite superficial if they haven’t connected with their higher sense of purpose and spirituality.

Possible Compatibility Profile

If you are or are involved with a 7 Life Path:

The 7 Life Path is always seeking The Truth – about the world, about themselves, about everything. They’re really attractive because they have an air of mystery about them, don’t they? This person needs a spiritual base to their life or they’ll flounder. If they haven’t found this base, they can be superficial and might have trouble with addictions – anything to avoid the real issues at hand! If they’ve found their base, they’re loyal and loving. These people have trust issues, so make sure you’re honest, trustworthy, and true to a 7 Life Path. This person thrives in nature and when they’re near water.

Possible Red Flags:

The 7 needs isolated time alone. It’s nothing against you personally. As long as you allow them their downtime without fear or nagging them about it, they’ll come back to you refreshed. This person is intuitive and also highly analytical. They have issues with trust and are working on being vulnerable and open.  Often the 7 wants to be in a relationship – and at the same time they really don’t.


Number 8: The Powerhouse

If you’re on a 8 Life Path, you’re The Powerhouse. Your primary purpose is to develop your positive relationship with money, power, control, authority, and generosity in whatever you do. The 8 Life Path is here to experience the satisfaction that comes with financial abundance and achievement.

  • The 8 Life Path is the “money” number and is a rather relentless path. You must first master your sense of personal power before you can succeed financially.
  • Is charming, enticing, and cares about their image (and yours!).
  • Is living a non-linear existence full of intense ups and downs.

Potential Challenges:

  • Being a workaholic, controlling, and opinionated.
  • Becoming greedy & myopically focused on money and status.
  • Going the opposite route and becoming a victim where money is scarce and success is non-existent.

Possible Compatibility Profile

If you are or are involved with an 8 Life Path:

The 8 Life Path is all about money, power, and authority. It’s no wonder you’re attracted to an 8! They’re usually magnetic and outgoing. These people like to look good and they like for their partner to shine as well. The image they present is important to them. This person can be highly romantic, and yet can also be a workaholic. The 8 is intense and also intensely charming. You need to be able to support them when they need you and back off when they don’t. The key to their heart: Supporting them 100% and the ability to make them laugh.

Possible Red Flags:

The 8 can be blunt and opinionated. They’re all about achievement and can be singularly focused on their career. They might see their relationships more in business terms rather than intimate terms. They’re also known for being controllers.  On the other hand, an 8 Life Path who’s not yet stepped into their Life Path mission can be the ultimate victim, financially impoverished, or simply lacking initiative.


Number 9: The Humanitarian

If you’re on a 9 Life Path, you’re The Humanitarian. Your primary purpose is to develop your sense of spirituality, humanitarianism, creativity, wisdom, and integrity in whatever you do. The 9 Life Path feels fulfilled when they’re serving a humanitarian service – large or small.

  • The 9 Life Path is an “old soul” who’s here to contribute to the betterment of the world.
  • Has amazing charisma, is profoundly creative, and has a life of “limited rewards” for their contributions.
  • Is an idealist and a romantic at heart.

Potential Challenges:

  • Has trouble asking for help or support.
  • Feels as though they carry the world on their shoulders.
  • Can be a fanatic about certain things – so has a tendency to not be a particularly good listener.

Possible Compatibility Profile

If you are or are involved with a 9 Life Path:

The 9 Life Path has tons of charisma! This person is so attractive on many levels. They’re the natural humanitarian and have a giving heart. These people are super romantic and in the relationship department, they really need to be told what you want, what you like, and what to do to please you. They thrive with positive instructions. This person never asks for help, so they can be having lots of problems and you might not even know it. So you need to dig deeper with a 9 Life Path to get to the bottom of their real feelings.

Possible Red Flags:

The 9 has a hard time asking for help and can have some heavy family issues. They can be fanatics. They can have a difficult time letting go. The 9 can have difficulty being in the present moment, so you might not always feel as though they’re truly listening to you. They can have abandonment issues. On the darker side, they can live in a world created by their own bitterness and resentment about the past. They can be a confusing “Rebel Without A Cause,” always pushing against something or someone.